How to grab a guy by Xmas!

13:07 04 December 2009

As we move into the festive season, there are so many more opportunities to meet a man. Shopping, celebrations and parties all provide ideal mating ground. But how do you make the most of them?

Here are the top tips to making sure that you have a different kind of present to unwrap this Christmas!

Be ready

Make sure you look presentable whenever you're out in public, even if it's just going round the supermarket.

Go man shopping

Be ready and open to all opportunities. While Christmas shopping for your loved ones there are plenty of males doing the same, and as long as he's not buying a present for his lady, it could be a great way to meet a man.

For a conversation starter, why not ask for help with something? For example, if you're buying a digital photo frame for your folks, ask him if he knows what the difference is between the two types on the shelf. You may even know the answer but a guy likes to be the hero. Simply saying "Hi" and asking a question is an instant ice breaker.

Scan the room

Keep your eyes open to any potential males. Be friendly to everyone from the bouncers to the door staff. Everybody looks better with a smile. This kind of confidence is also attractive and show a man your a great girl to be with.

Is he single?

Things such as him wearing a wedding ring or shopping for women's lingerie are obviously a sure fire way to tell he's off the market. But there are other things that may tell you whether he's single or not. Does he have any tattoos with a woman's name on it?

If you're in the supermarket, take a peek inside his basket or trolley. If there are nappies, then your answer's simple, but if it's beer and cheese, chances are he's single.

When you're in a bar or at a party, you're looking for a man who's not deeply engaged in conversation. He may be with a group of friends but actively watching the room.

You can also try these questions to find out if he's attached:

• How was your weekend? Did you do anything interesting?
• What's your favourite music? Have you ever gone to concerts?
• Did you see such and such movie?
• What did you do on your last holiday?
• Are you new in town?
• Do you have family nearby?
• Do you own a home or rent an apartment?
• What do you like to do for fun? What do you do in your free time?

Body language is key

Eye contact is a powerful thing. Make eye contact with an object of desire, hold for three seconds, and then look away. Repeat. If he's interested, you've given him a pretty clear signal that it's safe to head your way. If a guy makes eye contact with you two or three times chances are he likes you too. Flash him a smile and remain cool and playful and wait for him to come over!

Conversation starters

You have his attention, what next? Here are some ice breakers:

• Introduce yourself – "Hi. I'm Judy; I don't believe we've met."
• Make a comment, for example, about your surroundings – "This is a great party, I love this music."
• Complement him – "Great jacket, where did you get it?"
• Offer to buy him a drink – "I'm going to the bar, can i get you a drink?"
• Ask him to do you a favour – "Can you pay for these drinks for me while a just go get my friend". Give him the money and when you return he'll be there waiting with drinks in hand.

Closing the deal

If you don't feel comfortable asking or his digits, try something like asking is he's on Facebook. As he answers, interrupt saying "Actually, you know what I don't really go on it that much , just give me your number instead."

Keeping him

Guys are wired differently to girls. They can't cope with deep emotions and any signs of you being clingy orneedy will make him run a mile no matter how attractive or funny you are.

Don't make your life all about him. Stay in touch with friends, and keep up all the things you did before he came along.